Category: Self-help

I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones.

– Horacio Jones

We are not our failures – we are who we chose to become after those.

I couldn’t find the source for this. I just found it in my notes. Maybe it’s just a rephrasing of a popular quote. Maybe it just randomly came to me back then.

The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.

– Paulo Coelho

Never ruin an apology with an excuse.

– Benjamin Franklin

I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.

– Robin Williams

Avoid people who:
1.) Mess your head.
2.) Intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know would upset you.
3.) Expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you.
4.) Can’t and won’t apologize sincerely.
5.) Act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behavior.

Source: imgur.com

I really love this analogy by The Oatmeal regarding what our worldview (sometimes undeniably AKA self-righteousness) makes of us when challenged.

Your brain loves consistency. It builds a worldview like we build a house. It has a foundation and a frame, and windows and doors, and it knows exactly how everything fits together.

If a new piece is introduced and it doesn’t fit, the whole house falls apart. Your brain protects you by rejecting that piece. It then builds a fence and a moat, and refuses to let in any visitors.

This is why we have the backfire effect. It’s a biological way of protecting a worldview.

If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.

– Osho